Lesson 2 – Breakdown

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Part 2: Breakdown

All right, guys! So, this is the second part to this video where we were discussing families and I think, obviously, we’re getting into this course, is the first one we’re doing, but I want to keep it as sort of friendly and normal as possible, I guess, normal with regards to discussion so that it’s natural, okay? So Kell had prepared a list of these phrases and collocations and expressions that she used many of in this previous episode or the previous part of this episode. So, did you want to go through some of those, Kel and we can describe what they mean and how we can use them.?

So, I think we’ve talked about nuclear family and extended family.

Ok, so what is the nuclear family?

So, I would say is like your dad… your mum, your dad and your siblings. It’s a traditional sort of household.

That’s it. The nuclear families usually two parents of different genders, usually, and then a son and a daughter or a brother and a sister or two siblings, usually, the four people is the nucleus, the nuclear family, and then your extended family…

So, who or what is the extent family?

Your aunts and uncles and your cousins and your grandparents so, everyone else! I would include into this group. Is it right?

Yeah exactly, exactly! So, your extended family… so, I guess, as a story I would see…I would be with my nuclear family: my parents and my sister, all the time growing up, but every now and then we would see extended family or we would see members of my extended family when we went to birthday parties or to barbecues or get together quite often. My mother would call up my grandparents, my cousins my uncles and aunties second cousins, third cousins and invite them to events and so that would be an event with the extended family as well as obviously the nuclear family.

If you don’t have siblings. You are the only child.

You’re the only child. Exactly. So, neither of us are only children, neither of us are only children, I was never an only child… Well, that’s a lie. I was an only child because I was the eldest.

I’m the eldest as well.

So, we’ve both only children but for about a year and a half. That was me. I think 20 months, I was an only child for 20 months until my sister came along and that’s a good phrase to use to come along is to sort of to appear. When my mother got pregnant her belly started growing and I found that I was going to be a brother. That was when I was no longer an only child, when she was born.

I don’t remember life before having my sister around, honestly.

What’s the age gap, though, between you and your sister?

Just a year, like, I’m 30 she’s 29.

Very close.

Very close, and my parents were quite youngas wel…

So you guys didn’t have TV?

Anyway. So you were the eldest. She was the youngest and I was the eldest, my sister was the youngest and another really good phrase obviously or word is that if you are if you got multiple children in your family more than two, you’ll have the youngest and the eldest: the one at the bottom and the one at the top, and then you’ll have the middle child. If there’s three, right? The person in the middle, but then you can say the second oldest or the second youngest, right? Imagine you’ve got four children right. I’ve got four fingers here: this is the oldest. This is the second oldest. Third oldest, youngest, youngest, second youngest, third youngest, oldest, right?

You can use that to describe the brank or the ages of the kids in your family.

Well, we’re talking about siblings, what about sibling rivalry?

Sibling rivalry is a good expression when you guys obviously are rivals. So you compete against one another or you have a rivalry which is like when you’re competing against one another.

Very common between siblings.

Yeah, exactly. So this would be where you are competing for attention, competing for love, competing for affection, there’s small good phrases you can use, you know, with my sister and I we would compete for attention from my parents all the time. So, there was a lot of sibling rivalry between my sister and I whereas Kel, had no sibling rivalry.

Not at all. I mean, we would get into fights but it would be something so….small.

Be like a flash in a pan, would it? Just very quick.

Just really small and not really significant for any of us to get upset or anything.

Just not a big deal, wherereas for me it would be we would have a fight and we would hate each other for two weeks.

So, another thing that’s very different from us it’s like my parents were… my parents got divorced when I was six and your parents still together. So…

So, you could talk about where your parents divorced? Did they ever get divorced? Did your parents get divorced when you were young? when you are older? My parents got divorced when I was only six years old. I remember that you said when I was about six so that’s a really good way too, if you can’t remember an exact age or maybe you want to say approximately, a good way of doing so is using the word about or so, as well. So you could say I was six or so, I was about six. I was approximately six when that happened.

They might ask you to talk about your childhood and you can say your upbringing as well, right?

Exactly. So this is kind of I guess like a noun, an upbringing, your upbringing, and it’s from or it’s related to the phrasal verb to be brought up, right? If you are brought up it’s your raised from being a child to being, you know, an adolescent or an adult. You’ve been brought up. So I was brought up by my two parents. I was brought up in Australia. I was brought up on the other side of Melbourne until I was about nine years old and then I was brought up down the beach here in Ocean Grove. But we can say, we can use that instead of a verb to bring up, we can use that as a noun an upbringing and you have an upbringing, right? So I had a good upbringing, my parents gave me a great upbringing, my upbringing was in Ocean Grove. It was in Australia. What about you? How was your upbringing?

So it was good, I was raised in Brazil. That’s another thing you can say, I was raised, right?

Just like brought up, raised. I was raised by my parents. You were raised in Brazil. I was raised by my grandmother. You were raised by your grandmother.

Yeah very, different. I can speak of my grandmother, if you had to describe someone in your family the way I described my grandmother was that she was a strict woman, overprotective, maybe?

Overprotective is good, So that’s too protective, if you’re over….And I guess that’s an adjective, overprotective. It’s that you’re doing that too much. So you’re protectiv, but too much. It’s over, right? And the opposite of that would be under protective, not protective enough, overprotective, too protect, ok? And that’s a good way of diescribing it.

I was just saying, I wasn’t allowed to play outside and he was so, that’s when you know we realize you kind of overprotected because your parents don’t let you go outside, don’t let you do this and that. So…

What is it, exactly. So your parents were pretty overprotective. They overprotected you. My parents were relatively under protective. They kind of just let me do whatever I want.

I think the last one was we mentioned generation gap when we’re talking about your grandparents.

Exactly. So, the generation gap or the generational gap is the gap between generations. Obviously, so there’s a generational gap between my parents and I. There’s two generational gaps I guess you could say between my grandparents and I. And there would be maybe three generational gaps between my grandparents and great grandchildren. So my cousins children that I have in my family we don’t have any children yet or my sister has a child who is a great grandchild as well. And that’s a good way of describing the children of grandchildren. They are the great grandchildren of their great grandparents, right? So, as soon as a grandparent moves up like the parents of your grandparents your great grandparents and if you have grandparents and you have children, those children are great grandchildren to your grandparents, right?

So I hope that’s useful. I think that Iwas it about families and our families in particular.

So, hopefully this video helps, guys! I would love to see you guys using this in comments below if you want to practice some of these phrases if you have any questions put them below, but most importantly go out there and try and use this information. So, if you are studying this right now obviously go and tell someone about your family go and discuss your family with someone in English obviously. And if you can even just talk to yourself try saying it out loud and speaking for as long as possible discussing or describing the members of your family.


Thanks so much, Kel.

No worries, guys! See you in the next episode.